You know life shouldn’t feel so heavy,
that there should be as much joy as pain,
but right now you feel trapped,
paralyzed, and overwhelmed by it all.
You want to follow, or find, your dreams,
your calling, your myth,
but something just keeps getting in the way.
You’ve tried so many things
it’s hard to count them all.
It shouldn’t be so hard to live the life you want.
From about the time I was 19, I searched the world over
for something to relieve the pain, the obsessing,
the self-hatred, the invasive thoughts and the numbness.
I tried so many things:
conventional therapy, alternative healing paradigms,
positive psychology, spirituality, veganism, and so much more.
By the time I was 30, I had given-up.
I had found poetry and prayer and decided it would have to be enough.
and I tried to just get on with my life.
I got married.
. . . I had a baby.
Pregnancy and childbirth cracked me open.
I could no longer let things sit in the status quo
I was devastated.
I was overwhelmed.
I was grief-stricken . . .
I was desperate to heal so I could offer my child something more.
I began the search anew and found something new, and another, and another.
I added them to a magical basket of wonders
and wove them into a very special process.
I call it Myth Mending
Tīciyōtl is the Nahuatl word for the Indigenous medicine of the Mexica people and their descendants. Here, the word medicine does not come from the Latin and does not refer to the diagnosis and treatment of disease based on the scientific medical model. Rather it is closely related to the realms of soothsaying and divination. It lives in the context of Indigenous ways of knowing and being that are connected to all things (even those considered to be non-living by the western paradigm). Tīciyōtl is non-hierarchical, non-linear, non-binary, relational, poetic, emotional, personal and process-based. Tīciyōtl is anart. That means we work together with all things. I am your fellow traveler, not your superior. We will work in spirals toward internal (body, psyche, soul) and external (oppressive structures, cultural restoration, global recovery) transformation.
Myth Mending is also, and primarily, rooted in Indigenous tīciyōtl, in the theory and practice of the traditional “return to ourselves” Earth-medicine. In particular, I work with the Temazcalli, Limpias, rebozo sobadas, dream-craft (temictli and temixoch), and other curative arts as embodied in the present through my personal experience and calling.
I have learned these arts mostly from regular people as well as brief relationships with Indigenous Elders and teachers. I honor, without claiming apprenticeship or lineage, Tela Star Hawk Lake (Yurok – moonblood), Cher Bear Lyons (sweat lodge), David Forlines (Quileute – plant medicine, cultural restoration), Basil Brave Heart (Lakota – ceremony to open the path for me to find my Indigenous lineage), Michael Paul Hill (Apache – coming of age ceremony), Tonita Gonzales (Xicana – temazcalli), Rita Navarrete Perez (Mexican – temazcalli, sobadas y hierbas), Dayana Paz (Mexican – temazcalli), and Francesca Mason Boring (Shoshone – constellation ceremony).
Myth Mending, as I practice it, is also based in part on the contributions of Hippocrates, Plato, Carl Jung, Peter Levine, Gabor Maté, Rudolf Steiner, Bert Hellinger, James Hillman, Arny Mindell, David White, Pam England, and Whapio Diane Bartlett. In learning from these teachers, I acknowledge both their contribution to the art and science of transformation and their debt to Indigenous people who supplied, often without specific community or individual recognition, much of the material upon which their work is built.
Within the western paradigm, I have trained as a Somatic Experiencing practitioner, Family Constellation facilitator, Theater of the Oppressed facilitator, and Nutritional Therapist. I have also trained in Anthroposophy, Craniosacral Therapy and Processwork as well as a Birth Keeping, and Death Midwifery. I am a doctoral candidate in Interdisciplinary Indigenous Studies at the University of British Columbia. I work with Indigenous girls, women and mothers in restoring ceremonial practices of birth and mothering. I also have an MA in Depth Psychology with a concentration in Community Psychology, Liberation Psychology and Eco Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute.
You don’t have to sit through endless hours of therapy,
You don’t have to blame others, or the world,
You don’t have to rely on willpower and mental tricks . . .
What if I told you I have a secret . . . just for you.
Myth Mending takes place within a simple conversation carefully slowed, tracked, tenderly repaired and integrated. Sometimes it is done one on one and sometimes in a group.
Myth Mending is a profoundly efficient and powerful way to get to the root of things and make a deep inner shift, one that echoes outward into your life and the world.
Myth Mending is a paradigm of healing that draws on trauma resolution, somatic wisdom, curative story, ancestral healing, philosophical counsel, ceremonial practice, lineage repair and dream-craft. Myth Mending is a bit like coaching and a bit like counseling, and also nothing like them at all. Myth Mending is deeply rooted in my own somatic healing wisdom that I have developed through various western and non-western paradigms.
Myth Mending is both ancient and innovative, powerful and efficient. It is a process for resolving trauma, recovering presence and finding your (and the world’s) deeper healing story of the past, but also the future. The rupture that so often follows trauma in our current world is not a universal and necessary reality. Traumatic rupture is part of the reality of human suffering. However, lasting traumatic damage is the result of our current dominant paradigm – its deconstruction and removal of the Indigenous and embodied ceremonial arts practiced by initiated individuals and communities as a whole. Our global ancestral cultures and the ceremonies that went with them were protective and must be restored with care and authenticity.
Are you a Therapist and what is Myth Mending?
No. I am not a therapist. Myth Mending simply assists the human organism to connect with its natural healing momentum. It assumes the essential integrity and wholeness of each individual. I have consciously avoided engaging in paradigms that diagnose and treat disease and mental illness. I don’t do the healing. I facilitate you doing that yourself.
Will you work with me if I am mentally ill?
I do not acknowledge the symptoms and syndromes of mental illness except in resisting them and participating in a global effort to remember the ancestral truth that mental illness is caused by western civilization and it’s attachment exclusively to “head” knowledge, its eradication of indigenous ways of knowing and continued denial of its debt to global victims (including itself) of colonialism in all it’s forms. I see grief itself as healing and despair and delusions the conditions of our current civilization. I never diagnose or treat mental illness. Instead I seek to support wholeness and repair for all as well as changing the structures of systematic oppression of certain groups.
What happens in a Myth Mending session?
Springing from a clear intention, a typical session starts with a simple conversation. Together we will carefully allow and track the organic emergence of the thing calling for attention. Slowly, efficiently and respectfully we will untangle the constellation in question and, frame by frame, re-imprint and re-integrate, the pieces of the story using all of the senses and psyche.
Is our work together confidential?
Myth Mending is quite different from traditional therapy in that we won’t be going over and over all the details. You get to be fully expressed without feeling like you are giving me lots of tricky information about yourself or your relationships. Also, I am committed to seeing everything you tell me through the sacred lens of the deepest truest story as it emerges so that, in a way, I keep things confidential even from myself.
Myth Mending can help with:
Moving though relationship conflict
Work and career development, change or evolution
Personal feeling of well-being
Personal and professional commitment preparation (marriage/career)
Understanding your purpose and calling in the world
Creating and maintaining family rhythm and harmony
Finding and maintaining a healthy weight
Overcoming depression, anxiety and/or addiction
Following a dream that seems difficult or impossible
Who Myth Mending is for:
Anyone interested in receiving in depth, individual support during times of transformation and change.
People who have tried everything else and need something that works at a deeper level.
Anyone wanting to relate to conflict in a way that makes it more comfortable.
People open to embracing their inner healer as an ally and teacher.
People wanting to see things from a bigger picture without denying local reality.
Whether you're young or old, professional or artistic, introverted or extroverted, Myth Mending is powerful paradigm for becoming more and more of who you really are, who you dream you are, who you desperately want to be. Even a few sessions can make a life-changing difference, so I invite you to give it a try!
. . . or maybe someone sent you.
Whatever the case, you are most welcome.
If you have made it this far, you are probably seeking a new paradigm, something a little different from the standard of care and the protocols of therapy or the diagnosis of disease.
If you are a member of a marginalized category or community (most all of us are), you are beginning to witness the world awakening to the fact that the problem isn’t just with you, the marginalized, but with the dominant system and those who are consciously, as well as inadvertantly, complicit in it.
You are looking for a remembrance, a sacred healing practice, a collaboration, a release and a deeper awakening.
Myth Mending sessions are $300/2 hour session
We do a lot in 2 hours
Bring an obstacle or pattern you've done everything to address with little to no success and we will work toward a real and lasting breakthrough.
Please set us a time for us to have a small chat to see if Myth Mending is a good fit, or just to "meet" me before committing. I'd love to talk with you!